Don’t Let Your Insecurity Be Someone Else’s Hurdle.

One thing that comes up often for me is the ridiculous notion that there isn’t room for everyone. That what you’re great at is so special that no one else can meet or surpass you. Newsflash, you aren’t that special. Second newsflash, everyone is. There are millions of people and some are better than you in areas and worse than you in others, and the same is true reversed. To get to the top should be personal and not on the basis of anyone else. When we know what we are here for, know and embrace our passion, the top is easy to obtain. In that aspect there is only room for you, in the grand scheme of things, every one has their top and their top fits just like yours does. We live in this competitive world that tells us that we are the only one that can succeed, that if someone else has talents in the same wheel house they become our competition, someone to hold down. All of a sudden, we have something to prove. I promise if this is you, the problem lies inside and you need to fix it. If you don’t you will never reach your top and every high place you do reach will drop you down as fast as you found it.

These insecurities are not only damaging to ourselves but to others as well. The negative vibrations we send out to hold someone down are hard to overcome. While that is their fight to work on, we definitely can ease the load. If we stop sending out the fight they can finally stop going to battle. How many times have you looked at others decisions or aspirations and shit all over them. You cant do that, that’s not enough money, no one will use that, you don’t have enough to succeed… The list is endless, and if any of you say you haven’t you’re a dirty liar and you know it. We let our insecurities and our own inability to dream big and jump bigger try to be a tether for all those that can. Tell me, why should your insecurities hold anyone else back? Does putting salt in their sugar somehow make yours sweeter? No it sure as heck doesn’t, but it definitely messes up their sugar. Don’t get too happy about that, they will get more sugar, they know how. You’ll just still be over there, salty as hell.

Same applies for others in our own professions. Look, there are a ton of mediums out there, I know that, you know that. Does that bother me? Not in the slightest, if we weren’t all needed than God wouldn’t have put us all here. Some are better than me in ways and some worse, but all are important. Everyone that joins the ranks and starts living their true life I am beyond excited for. I don’t have to compare my work to theirs. My time doing this vs theirs means nothing, I don’t know the fight they’ve fought already. My strengths don’t highlight their weakness and their strengths don’t highlight my weakness. There is this awful way about us when we are doing well in a field that wants us to tell people anything is possible, but just not what I do. I am the only one good enough to do this. Sorry, but nope. We can all reach whatever status we want, and may I remind you that not every one with status gets to keep it or even deserves it. What goes up must come down and the toes you stepped on going up are often attached to the asses you’ll kiss coming down. When we rise with dignity and respect than our down moments are filled with grace and strength. The very people we raise up will be the ones to catch us should we fall and vice versa.

This isn’t a competition, there is no end to race towards, there is room for every single person. The next time you find yourself judging, being petty, passive aggressive, or even just aggressive, remember your actions carry weight. Your insecurities can become someone else’s hurdle, but don’t be surprised when you find yourself consistently jumping over that very same hurdle. I promise that life is pretty balanced, we all have strengths and weaknesses. Be grateful of your journey, thankful for what you have, and proud of all others achieve. When you dish out love and support its what you receive in return and that will make you more successful than you can even handle. The next time you want to judge someone else and their journey, remember that someone, somewhere will judge yours the same. Have Grace, be humble, and push others to be the very best. They will push you in return. Know your worth, reach your top, I’ll see you up there!